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DECEMBER 10, 2013 by DR. NIMA SHEI

10 Signs of Borderline Personality Disorder

10 Signs of Borderline Personality Disorder

Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a mental health disorder that generates significant emotional instability. This can lead to a variety of other stressful mental and behavioral problems.
With borderline personality disorder, a person may have a severely distorted self-image and feel worthless and fundamentally flawed. Anger, impulsiveness, and frequent mood swings may push others away, even though they may desire to have loving and lasting relationships.

If you or someone you know have borderline personality disorder, don’t get discouraged. Many people with this disorder get better with treatment and can live satisfying lives.

Borderline personality disorder affects how a person feels about themselves, how they relate to others, and their behavior.

Signs and symptoms of borderline personality disorder may include:

1. Impulsive and risky behavior, such as risky driving, unsafe sex, gambling sprees, or illegal drug use
2. Awareness of destructive behavior, including self-injury, while often feeling unable to change it
3. Wide mood swings
4. Short but intense episodes of anxiety or depression
5. Inappropriate anger and antagonistic behavior, sometimes escalating into physical fights
6. Difficulty controlling emotions or impulses
7. Suicidal behavior
8. Feeling misunderstood, neglected, alone, empty, or hopeless
9. Fear of being alone
10. Feelings of self-hate and/or self-loathing

As with other mental disorders, the causes of borderline personality disorder aren’t fully understood. Experts agree, though that the disorder results from a combination of factors. Factors that seem likely to play a role include:
* Genetics- Some studies of twins and families suggest that personality disorders may be inherited or strongly associated with other mental disorders among family members.
* Environmental factors- Many people with borderline personality disorder have a history of childhood abuse, neglect and separation from caregivers or loved ones.
* Brain abnormalities- Some research has shown changes in certain areas of the brain involved in emotion regulation, impulsivity and aggression. In addition, certain brain chemicals that help regulate mood, such as serotonin, may not function properly.

With borderline personality disorder, a person often has an insecure sense of who they are. Their self-image, self-identity, or sense of self often rapidly changes. They may view themselves as evil or bad, and sometimes may feel as though they don’t exist at all. An unstable self-image often leads to frequent changes in jobs, friendships, goals and values.

Their relationships are usually in turmoil. They may idealize someone one moment and then abruptly and dramatically shift to fury and hate over perceived slights or even minor misunderstandings. This is because people with borderline personality disorder often have difficulty accepting gray areas — things seem to be either black or white.

If you’re aware that you have any of the signs or symptoms above, talk to your doctor or a mental health provider. Proper treatment can help you feel better about yourself and help you live a more stable, rewarding life.

If you notice signs or symptoms in a family member or friend, talk to that person about seeing a doctor or mental health provider. Remember you can’t force someone to seek help. If the relationship causes you significant stress, you may find it helpful to see a therapist yourself.

10 Signs of Borderline Personality DisorderBy Khrystyana Kirton
Edited by Stephanie Dawson
Reviewed by Nima Shei MD

An amazing plea from the soul of a person with Borderline Personality Disorder:
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-Deannalynn Arzola
*Thanks to the author

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Always bearing in mind that sociopathy is a personality disorder and not leprosy, I know that my beloved is beautifully flawed. And in regards to this lovely photo by Amy Allen, when everything is hurting, it is my beloved sociopathic baby boy (NOT Mr. Picture-of-Sanity) who is BY FAR the lesser hurt. For it is him I choose to run to when I'm reeling from the  people who inhabit planet "normal". 
I love you, Montana. I know I don't say that enough as I'm under the misguided belief that you don't know what I mean when I say it. I love you for being my most magnificent magician and for being the most normal person I know. You're perfect. We know who we are, my consecrated-by-you-boudoir is a mask free zone, in your presence, I can finally exhale, and sometimes being without you hurts more than being with him can masquerade. In my life, loving you IS what hurts least.

There are people in the world who don’t care about love, who feel no remorse, empathy or emotional attachment to others. In fact, they don’t even know what these feelings are. These people are called sociopaths. Most of us think of sociopaths as deranged serial killers, but, with four percent of the population having sociopathic character traits, most of them never physically harm anyone. Sociopaths do, however, ruin lives, empty bank accounts, and cause untold emotional trauma, with the simple excuse that they just don’t care.

Even though most sociopaths never kill anyone, they are social predators who exploit just about everyone they meet. They have no heart, no conscience and no remorse. Needless to say, this is not the kind of person you want to open your heart to. But sociopaths have impressive social skills, thereby making them extremely hard to spot. They are charming, funny and exciting. This is why we need to be aware. You’ll never be able to cure a sociopath or help him see the error of his ways because he doesn’t see the world as the rest of us do. The only thing you can do, is save yourself and walk, no, run away as fast as possible. If your new romantic interest exhibits all or most of the following behaviors, be careful. He or she might be a sociopath.

1. Charisma and charm. He’s a smooth talker, always has an answer, never misses a beat. He seems to be very exciting. His manners are impeccable — he’s well groomed and fulfills the codes of romance and courtship to a tee. He’s likely to be an eloquent talker who laces his speech with impressive sounding facts and figures.

2. Enormous ego. He acts like the smartest, richest or most successful person in the room. He may actually come out and tell you that.

3. Overly attentive. He calls, texts and e-mails constantly. He wants to be with you every moment and resents any time you spend with your family and  friends.

4. Jekyll and Hyde personality. One minute he loves you, the next minute he hates you. His personality changes like the flipping of a switch.

5. A blamer. Nothing is ever his fault. He always has an excuse. Someone else is alwaysthe cause of his problems.

6. Lies and gaps in the story. You ask questions, and the answers are vague. He tells stupid, outrageous lies when he’d make out better telling the truth. If you probe deeper, you’ll find that his stories never quite add up.

7. Intense eye contact. Call it the predatory stare, but if you get a chill down your spine when he looks at you (and not the good kind), pay attention.

8. Fast moving. He quickly proclaims that you’re his true love and soul mate. He wants to move in together or get married quickly.

9. Pity play. He appeals to your sympathy. He wants you to feel sorry for his abusive childhood, psychotic ex, incurable disease or financial setbacks.

10. Sexual magnetism. If you feel intense attraction, if your physical relationship is unbelievable, it may be the excess testosterone that sociopaths possess.

Donna Andersen is the author of Red Flags of a Love Fraud: 10 Signs You’re Dating a Sociopath, based on her own experiences and 3,000 other cases collected from readers of her blog. 

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